Although being in an intimate relationship can bring joy and nourishment there's no doubt that it can be painful and difficult at times. When things aren't going so well you may feel confused, upset, or frustrated. If you've felt unhappy for a while, you could be questioning the relationship and perhaps wondering if it's worth continuing with.
There are many reasons why people seek couples counselling. Perhaps the relationship has changed and there is a sense you're growing apart. Or maybe you are exhausted from too many disagreements and arguments. It could be that you're struggling with issues around communication, sex or intimacy.
As a Couples Therapist I can help with many issues, such as:
Whatever the challenges you're facing as a couple, I can help you to explore these issues in more depth. Couples counselling creates a space where you can come together to really listen to one another and be heard. I can help you understand your patterns of relating, how you get stuck, and what will help you move forwards. I'm committed to understanding how life is for each of you, without blaming or taking sides.
When difficulties occur it is common to get caught in a cycle of blame, criticism, and resentment. Couples often feel stuck and may have little hope they can change things. I believe that there is a way forwards and that together we can start to uncover what is actually going on. I can help you to connect to your feelings, identify your needs, and explore the underlying issues. Furthermore I can suggest tools and exercises that can help with communication and connection.
The more we open our hearts to another the more likely it is that our fears, insecurities and old wounds will emerge. I can help you to understand how unresolved issues from your past may be impacting on your relationship. Together we can explore what is needed to help your relationship grow or, as sometimes is the case, how best to end. Overall my aim is to help you to create nurturing and fulfilling relationships that support your wellbeing.